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“Dear future husband,
Here’s a few things
You’ll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life”

Meghan Trainer has a song called “Dear Future Husband.” I heard this catchy tune this weekend while out and about.  I found myself bobbing my head along with the beat. But then I started listening to what the lyrics were really saying.

 “If you wanna get that special lovin’
Tell me I’m beautiful each and every night
After every fight
Just apologize
And maybe then I’ll let you try and rock my body right
Even if I was wrong”

I had to stop myself and recognize that God has a much, much bigger plan in mind for my future husband than the song even begins to give credit to. I propose an amended version that looks something like this:

Dear Future Husband,

You have been prayed for, many times, for many years.  My dad started praying for you before I was born, and as I’ve grown older, my prayers have been added.  I am so thankful that you have turned into the man who captures my heart. You are amazing, and God has blessed you with incredible talents.

I am so thankful that we can laugh together and go through the trials together. You hold me to a high standard. You expect me to seek God first and willingly pray over decisions that will affect our future.

You will rebuke me in love and demonstrate daily what it means to truly be a man of God. You hold me as designed by God in our marriage bed.

I love how you encourage me to grow and be humble; this one is hard for me, but you remind me of Eph. 4:2.  I love that you understand when we fight and I’m wrong, I’ll be honest and upfront with you and do my best to apologize quickly.

You not only appreciate my need to help you and others, you encourage it. You remind me when I’m frustrated that God will never leave me. You encourage me to be strong and courageous.

Thank you for seeing that my beauty lies in who Christ is in me, not in outward appearances, but still reminding me that I am attractive to you as well.

There are so many things about you that I’m thankful for and incredibly blessed by.  Mostly it’s my honor to serve God by your side.

I love you,


My future husband is handpicked by God for me, and that’s so much better than a catchy song disregarding His design.